Perfect Pitch: Tawny Lara's Query Letter for Dry Humping
Oh hey! It’s a query letter for a non-fiction project!
I get asked about these fairly often, so say thank you to the incredible and brilliant Tawny Lara by preordering her book, DRY HUMPING, which will be in bookstores everywhere September 19th with Quirk Books!
Seriously. These queries only get shared because my clients are willing to share them.
Now, let’s jump in, and showcase why this is such an excellent query letter, particularly for someone writing non-fiction.
One stand out story about this query is that Tawny sent it to me in the morning, I requested it that day, read the proposal that afternoon, and offered representation on my walk home from the office.
What made me jump on this project immediately? First, the project sounded great, the sample pages were fantastic, and the proposal Tawny put together was astonishing. The non-fiction book proposal is a post for another day, but we will be sharing it.
But also, her platform. And the query letter here told me exactly why Tawny was THE PERSON to be writing this book. It’s also something publishers responded well to. Tawny’s book went on submission in August and had an offer in November.
Let’s see it.
Hi Eric,
I'm currently seeking representation for my book, Dry Humping: How to Get Laid Without Getting Wasted. It's a feminist guidebook to sober dating, sex, and relationships. Below is a brief query. My full proposal is available upon request. P.S. I also have a rock n roll heart! Dad's a metal musician and I co-host a podcast about sobriety and rock n roll.
Have you ever taken a shot of whiskey or had a glass of wine to curb those first date jitters, desperately waiting for the liquid courage to kick in? I have. It wasn't until my 30th birthday that I decided to take a step back, stop binge drinking, and figure out what I actually wanted from a date or a romantic relationship. But then all of a sudden I had a problem: How do I date, let alone have sex, now that I’m sober? Dry Humping: How to Get Laid Without Getting Wasted is the how-to guide I wish I had. Now that millions participate in Dry January and “sober curiosity” is a household term, we all need a lesson in the art of sober dating in a world consumed by hookup culture. Dry Humping is about the liberation one experiences once they ditch alcohol in an increasingly sex-positive society.
Combining pop culture criticism, interviews with sex therapists and dating coaches, sober sexual assault survivors, sober LGBQIA+ folks, sober BIPOC folks, and my own experience navigating sex, dating, and relationships as a sober millennial. I take readers through the modern sober dating scene. Then we go deeper into the sober sex conversation: learning about sober sex workers, the link between sexual assault and alcohol, and what sober sex-positivity looks like. The book ends with the reader learning how to navigate the stresses of later-in-life events like weddings, estate planning, home buying, divorce, family planning, and more—while also keeping sobriety as priority number one.
I'm an NYC-based Bisexual millennial who writes about the intersection of relationships, sex, and sobriety. My work is featured in Men’s Health, Playboy, Huffington Post, Writer’s Digest, The Temper, Audiofemme, a sex column for SheSaid, and two essay collections: The Addiction Diaries (LaunchPad 2020) and the forthcoming reimagining of Sex and the Single Girl (Harper Perennial 2022).
I am also the co-host of Recovery Rocks podcast and story developer for Webby-Award winning F*cking Sober podcast. I’ve been profiled in Men’s Health, WebMD, Refinery 29, Parents, and more. Additional bylines and press features available at tawnylara.com.
I’d love to see Dry Humping on your list, especially as the conversation about sobriety and sex-positivity continues to become more mainstream. Below are 10 pages of the marketing section for said proposal.
Thanks again!
Tawny
There’s so much Tawny does right with this pitch.
There’s a personal flourish (rock and roll heart, which yes, I have!), which when you can make it, is always nice. Remember, not all literary agents or industry professionals are as, shall we say, Very Online as myself, so you can’t always make that fun connect. But when you can, go for it!
The" jacket-esque-copy” explaining the book is wildly good, because not only does it explain what’s inside, it tells us why Tawny is the person writing it. It’s a wellness and personal guide that comes from a place of experience and care. When you’re pitching non-fiction, give us that. Why it’s so important to you to be writing this.
And the last bit, which is probably the most important takeaway here for my non-fiction friends, is the platform hook.
I'm an NYC-based Bisexual millennial who writes about the intersection of relationships, sex, and sobriety. My work is featured in Men’s Health, Playboy, Huffington Post, Writer’s Digest, The Temper, Audiofemme, a sex column for SheSaid, and two essay collections: The Addiction Diaries (LaunchPad 2020) and the forthcoming reimagining of Sex and the Single Girl (Harper Perennial 2022).
I am also the co-host of Recovery Rocks podcast and story developer for Webby-Award winning F*cking Sober podcast. I’ve been profiled in Men’s Health, WebMD, Refinery 29, Parents, and more. Additional bylines and press features available at tawnylara.com.
So here, Tawny stresses all the outlets where she has written about the exact thing in her book. Sobriety, relationships, sex. Not only that, she digs into the platform that she’s built herself, her podcast, which won some awards this year as well.
We’re in this weird era of social media falling apart. Remember, and I say this all the time, platform isn’t just your following on places like Twitter (or Threads, Bluesky, whatever the hell we’re running to next). It’s the platform you own.
Publications and things you create, that can’t necessarily be taken away if a social media outlet falls apart. Writing non-fiction? Memoir? Essay collections? Pop history? Just look at the proposals I shared for Aidan Moher’s Fight Magic Items and Mary Kenney’s Gamer Girls. Their platform through publication and career… that means infinitely more than social media following.
Tawny’s another perfect example of that.
I hope this query letter was helpful to you and your publishing journey, friends.
Do thank Tawny by preordering Dry Humping or requesting it at your local library. And stay tuned! We’ll share the book proposal as publication gets closer.